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Let a man's object be to ingratiate himself with another –
a fit & proper object – if pursued in accordance with prudence &
benevolence. How can he best accomplish it? How shall he
apply the deontological rule?

To ingratiate yourself with another is to obtain his
good opinion – his good opinion on any particular occasion – or
his good opinion in general. Out of his good opinion will grow
the desire to render you acceptable services – services in a shape
which you may or he may specially have in view, or services
of a more extensive character. It is your desire that he should
not regard you as he regards men in general – or men unknown
to him – but that his mind should be impressed with favorable &
friendly affections towards you.

You have these two distinguishable courses to pursue.
If you have the power of giving evidence of your disposition to render acceptable
services to the party whose good opinion you are guilty courting seeking & still
more if you have the power of rendering him such services – if you
can induce him to look upon you as likely to be able, or as
able in reality to add any thing to his enjoyment – if in a
word you are able in a situation to exercise towards him the virtues of
benevolence & beneficence – do so – it is the first & most
obvious means of ingratiation – & may be intitled Courtship.

But if this be wanting you have another means of ingratiation.
Endeavour to draw him Set yourself as regards men in general in a favorable light.
Endeavor to appear in his eyes as a fit object of social
affection as worthy of love or esteem, or both. This may
be called self recommendation – or self elevation.

With some persons this self elevation is the most
recommendatory course, – with others the system of courtship, is rather, the
exhibition of the qualities which make your title out to friendly regard

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Date_1		Marginal Summary Numbering
Box	015	Main Headings	deontology
Folio number	444	Info in main headings field
Image	001	Titles
Category	linking material	Number of Pages	1
Recto/Verso	recto	Page Numbering	f129
Penner	sir john bowring	Watermarks	[[watermarks::[top of motif]]]
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