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may be put forward with more success & with less reserve to certain persons than to others.

Where the desire of ingratiating is exhibited with agreeable
prudence & wisdom it seldom fails of obtaining success since there is no
man who is not dependent to some extent on the good will of others
& very few who in the obvious calculations of self interest are
not willing to make some return for tendered useful services. But the
self recommendation cannot be employed without more or less hazard –
it is an attempt to occupy a higher position than that we fill in the
mind of the person appealed to. If it fail, we are lowered in his opinion
& humiliated in our own. Yet it is the most agreeable instrument
– & the most flattering to self. It is that which is most frequently
employed for the purpose of winning the friendly sympathies of others –
& the anxiety to employ it, is the frequent cause of its the counteraction of
its own purpose. To the young it is peculiarly fascinating &
peculiarly delusive. They are wont to assign to themselves a
place more exalted than the world in general is disposed to recognize
– a place above the ordinary level – in the scale of popular
estimation. They do not easily lend themselves to the practice
of courtship lest it should be deemed disreputable flattery & are
therefore more prone to take their stand upon their own merit.

But in as far as the good opinion of others can
be purchased by services done – & if the doing those services
can be done without any other sacrifice of self than will be recompensed
by a greater result of good – no opportunity should be lost which
enables us to win the friendly affections of mankind in general or
of any individual in particular whose approval will augment
our own & the general happiness.

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Box	015	Main Headings	deontology
Folio number	445	Info in main headings field
Image	001	Titles
Category	linking material	Number of Pages	1
Recto/Verso	recto	Page Numbering	f130
Penner	sir john bowring	Watermarks	[[watermarks::[top of motif]]]
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