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If the words or deeds of another give you pain
& you, in consequence, desire they should cease from annoying
you – so manage that the discontinuance of the annoyance
be obtained with as little pain as possible to the other
party. Do not therefore desire abruptly that the
vexation may cease – do not give evidence of the
pain it causes you – but propose some new topic – give
a direction to the conversation or conduct which shall lead it away
from the course that annoys you.

In the interference of others in your behalf
it may well happen that there has been imprudence – that the
interference had not been such as you would approve – & that
your dissatisfaction is well grounded. Before you complain,
be quite sure that, with a reference to the future, it is
necessary to apprise the party of your displeasure – nothing
but your reference to the future will authorize in any case
an expression of your dissatisfaction – for no such expression
will change the past – or root out make an evil that has
been, not to have been. Should a reoccurrence of ill-judged
interference be contemplated, – then – at the moment when
it is about to take place – gently apprize the party that
on a former occasion – some unintended mischief was done –
otherwise, do not let him perceive that you noticed the
consequences of his injudicious interference, – nor apprize him of it.

Identifier: | JB/015/532/001 "JB/" can not be assigned to a declared number type with value 15.
Date_1	1823-10-03	Marginal Summary Numbering
Box	015	Main Headings	deontology
Folio number	532	Info in main headings field	deontology private
Image	001	Titles
Category	text sheet	Number of Pages	1
Recto/Verso	verso	Page Numbering	e1
Penner	jeremy bentham	Watermarks	j whatman turkey mill 1822
Marginals		Paper Producer	jonathan blenman
Corrections		Paper Produced in Year	1822
Notes public		ID Number	5807953
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