JB/538/219/001

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When I first mentioned to La Greffiere your being with Macbride
she said she had known him very well in former days when he
was the most elegant and accomplished man she ever saw; that every
body admired him and that his company she had heard had been
much courted by the great. Upon my reading to her what you have
written to me about the occasion of your quitting him she told me a
circumstance belonging to him which she had forgot to mention before;
that he had married a wife with a large fortune £17000, but
though she was a very amiable woman had behaved so brutally to her
that in the course of a year or two she died, as people said, of a broken
heart. It seems she has been used to people of such tempers as he
appears to be from what you have mentioned of his behaviour. to you apt to take a fancy to people
upon slight acquaintance, extremely civil and to all appearance friendly
to them as long as the fancy continued, but not withheld by any
considerations of generosity or decorum from venting their spleen in the
grossest manner upon their conceiving any disgust which they are apt
to do without any assignable cause. Never was any thing worse expressed
than then, but you know what I mean. She took for granted partly
from what you mentioned and partly from what she imagined that upon
observing him to behave in the violent manner you mention to the people
under him, you behaved to him with rather more obsequiousness, than you
might have done otherwise thinking to weather out the storm by yielding.:
upon that supposition she blamed you & wonder'd you had not known better
for that the only way of dealing with such sort of people was to treat them
with as little obsequiousness as they treat you. From all this one may
conclude thus much that your's is by no means an uncommon case: but as to the knowing
a priori that such was as she mentions is the proper way of dealing with them, supposing
it to be the proper way of dealing with them and that people who agree
in this one circumstance that they behave brutally to you without provocation
after having behaved cordially to you without obligation are all to be treated
in the same way is too much as I told her for any body to divise.

Identifier: | JB/538/219/001 "JB/" can not be assigned to a declared number type with value 538.
Date_1	1778-08-13	Marginal Summary Numbering
Box	538	Main Headings
Folio number	219	Info in main headings field
Image	001	Titles
Category	Correspondence	Number of Pages
Recto/Verso		Page Numbering
Penner	Jeremy Bentham	Watermarks
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